Confessions of a Christian Shopaholic

I’m in a season of my life where I just want more of God. I’ve tried everything else and not only has it not satisfied but it seems small in retrospect. I’m climbing over mental obstacles and spiritual mountains to get and stay closer to Him. I’m just in a place where I’m willing to go through whatever. 

It hasn’t always been that way. I’ve come from a season where I was clawing my way on hands and knees just looking to catch a glimpse of His presence. And I know I’m not the only one. So, how did I do it?

…The truth is I didn’t. I was crawling and clawing because I was trying to stay in God’s presence by my own will power. And as I was failing I was filling my life with things and stuff that I thought could lessen the blow of that failure while at the same time helping me achieve holiness (I have about 15 different bibles floating around my house. Hit me up if you need one and I’ll send it to you).  

I like to shop. No, I LOVE to shop. I love to find and give the perfect gift. I love the hunt for a bargain. I love the latest gadget. I love everything about it. And when I’m in a funk when I’m lonely, when I’m feeling like a failure, nothing lifts me out faster than the hunt for a purchase.

Or so I thought.

The problem with that is when the shopping is done, there are the repercussions of having spent all of that money. If you’re like me and you use credit, there’s the pressure of mounting minimum payments and the endless juggling of paychecks and which bill to pay this month. If you live in a city like I do, you know how much access you have to whatever shop or store you can imagine. I love New York, but it’s a blessing and a curse for this particular problem. 

And that’s to say nothing of the spiritual repercussions of being suddenly focussed on anything other than Jesus. It’s a drain on your faith. You start to bargain and “reason” with God. “Please Lord, if I only had more, I could concentrate on You. If You would bring me out of this season of lacking, I could be a super mega Christian.” Maybe that’s just me, but I doubt it. I think we’ve all been there. 

I don’t know about you, but I had just gotten sick of it. I cried out to God for help but this time I surrendered everything to Him. I figuratively left it all at his feet.

“Better is a little with the fear of the Lord, Than great treasure with trouble.” Proverbs 15:16.

It isn’t worth it. It wasn’t worth it. I want to be happy. I wanted peace. Filling my life with things brought chaos. It took a long time but I realized I was the thing in the way of my happiness, of my getting closer to God and being the woman of God He is pleased with.

I was fighting for peace, for happiness.  But where is true happiness? In the arms of the one who created us. Owning things can never bring about that kind of happiness.  The Bible says in Ecclesiastes 5:10, “ Those who love money will never have enough. How meaningless to think that wealth brings true happiness!” 

“Delight yourself also in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.” Psalm 37:4

Funny, how that works. I’m loving this new season where all I have to do is live my life coveting only His presence and everything else seems to fall into place. It has been so freeing. How simple a formula for happiness. If it’s not Jesus, throw it away. It’s not important. I find myself dancing on elevators and train platforms and speaking to strangers about His love with a light heart and without fear of rejection. I’ve now spoken at church twice (If you know me, you know that’s an utter miracle). I’m not saying life has been perfect but I’m constantly surprised when the next step I take towards Him in my Spiritual walk leads me to a better place in my earthly one. 

Am I still craving things? … Yes, this world still tells us that in order to achieve happiness we have to acquire things. But do I still buy them, seek them, focus on them? Nope! When the urge hits, I turn to music, to His word or my brothers and sisters in Christ and in life to remind me what is truly important. 

So I don’t care what mountain I have to climb. I don’t care what things I have to give up. I don’t care what storm I have to endure… I am running towards Him and dropping everything I have to to get to Him. I have realized that I’d rather live within my means than deal with all of the baggage that comes from having things. And I would rather fill my home with His eternal presence and my heart with His eternal peace than with all the things that can only satisfy in the moment.

Oh and if you see me on the street with a whole lot of shopping bags, you have my full permission to ask me some questions. 

Resources:

https://www.christianbook.com/uncluttered-free-your-space-schedule-soul/courtney-ellis/9781628627916/pd/627917?en=google&event=SHOP&kw=books-0-20%7C627917&p=1179710&dv=c&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI-t3upPjv5QIVVeWGCh01MgdmEAQYAiABEgLoyvD_BwE#CBD-PD-Description

https://www.bible.com/reading-plans/14304

My Fiction

Sooo…I write fiction and for many years I’ve kept the stories in my head to myself. God has been pushing me to share but I’ve been very reluctant. This is something very personal and it’s really a hobby that started out as me and my best friend (we were preteens) sharing stories back and forth. She lived in the Bronx and I lived upstate and we wrote each other letters that turned into stories, that turned into thinly veiled wishes and hopes and dreams. Anyway, that friendship ended but I kept writing.

Writing pre-Christ was an outlet for emotions I never allowed myself to express. Those stories of hopes and dreams slowly became an escape from the hard things in life. And then I found Jesus and my writing was put on the back burner because I had a lot of soul work to do and God showed me that I didn’t need to hide behind fiction. He could help me deal with all that stuff I had put down on paper and hidden in fiction but never really actually worked through.

Now, it’s a passion from which I find enjoyment. A Bible verse, a song Christian or otherwise opens this whole train of thought that I’m not sure what to do with but I know He wants me to share with somebody.

I will be posting snippets from pieces I’m working on from time to time. I’ve created a section in the menu called My Fiction. My first snippet, Number 73, is there. Please take a look at it. I welcome your feedback. Be gentle, it’s very raw and still in the draft phase. I hope you like it…

Celeste

If Not for Your Grace: How God led me to speak to my church on my birthday.

Our beloved pastor sent an email some weeks back to the leaders of the church. In it he spoke about how he had been thinking on a summer series of preachings called Living Your Best Life: Fun in the Son and how he loves how God speaks to us all so differently and could we pick a date to speak. Immediate reaction… I already did that with Carmen a few months back. It’s too soon. And my usual guaranteed to get me out of speaking answer… God has not given me something to say. Except He did. Immediately, I heard Him say grace. 

Now I had a choice to make. Nobody else had heard God speak to me. I could just remain silent and wait for the dates to fill up. Then I wouldn’t be required to speak. Someone would speak on grace. It was an easy enough topic. I mean, I’m a leader in church but I take care of the finances. I’m behind the scenes ministry. Why should I have to step to the front?

But then that pesky Holy Spirit stepped in and reminded me that God had in fact spoken to me and that this year my birthday just happened to fall on a Sunday. Let’s just say God does not allow me to be disobedient without great effort. I heard grace everywhere until our beloved pastor gently reminded a couple of us who shall remain nameless that we had not responded to the email.  Fine Lord, I’ll take July 21st. 

It’s decided and now I have a date. I also have a theme, grace. But I have to say something other than grace. What am I going to say? Suddenly that topic that was so easy in someone else’s hands doesn’t seem so easy. Grace? What do you want me to say about grace Lord?

I know. God’s people need to know that the grace they were given needs to be extended to others. Bet Lord, I’m going to speak on that. Now remember this series is called Living your best life: Fun in the Son. I know what you’re thinking it’s so fun to point the finger and say hey guys you’re not doing this. People just love correction and you pointing out their flaws. But at this point I am confident I can pull this off so I start digging through my Bible. I look in commentaries and the concordance. I know there is a verse about grace that says something like freely you received, freely you should give. I just can’t find it. I found Matthew 10:8, “Heal the sick, cleanse the lepers, raise the dead, cast out demons. Freely you have received, freely give.” And I thought nope, that doesn’t feel like what God’s leading me to say. That was Jesus talking to His disciples before He sent them out into the world to spread the good news.

I prayed. I sat in silence. I… heard nothing for two weeks and then last week as I was in the cab on my way to church I heard the lyrics to a song I hadn’t listened to in a couple of years…

God was speaking to my heart. In my spirit I heard Him say, “Celeste, you’re thinking too small about grace. I want my people to know that my grace is bigger than just being patient and forgiving and being quiet when people wrong you. My grace is bigger than just tolerating other people’s imperfections. My grace is… now I had a scripture…

And you He made alive, who were dead in trespasses and sins, 2 in which you once walked according to the [a]course of this world, according to the prince of the power of the air, the spirit who now works in the sons of disobedience, 3 among whom also we all once conducted ourselves in the lusts of our flesh, fulfilling the desires of the flesh and of the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, just as the others.4 But God, who is rich in mercy, because of His great love with which He loved us, 5 even when we were dead in trespasses, made us alive together with Christ (by grace you have been saved), 6 and raised us up together, and made us sit together in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus, 7 that in the ages to come He might show the exceeding riches of His grace in His kindness toward us in Christ Jesus. 8 For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, 9 not of works, lest anyone should boast. 10 For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.

Ephesians 2:1-10

I went to the dictionary and looked up the definition.

Grace: is the free and unmerited favor of God, as manifested in the salvation of sinners and bestowal of blessings.

Okay Lord, well now I feel like my little message of extending grace to each other is petty. I feel like these are the times that Jesus side eyes me. But I digress.

What is grace that restores. Ephesians 2:1-3 And you He made alive, who were dead in trespasses and sins, 2 in which you once walked according to the [a]course of this world, according to the prince of the power of the air, the spirit who now works in the sons of disobedience, 3 among whom also we all once conducted ourselves in the lusts of our flesh, fulfilling the desires of the flesh and of the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, just as the others.

What is grace that redeems? 4 But God, who is rich in mercy, because of His great love with which He loved us, 5 even when we were dead in trespasses, made us alive together with Christ (by grace you have been saved), 

What is grace that releases us to worship? 6 and raised us up together, and made us sit together in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus, 7 that in the ages to come He might show the exceeding riches of His grace in His kindness toward us in Christ Jesus.

What is grace that repairs visions and dreams? For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, 9 not of works, lest anyone should boast. 10 For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.

What is grace that releases miracles? This is the fun part. This is what God wanted His people to hear and what He wanted me to talk about. Where would we be if not for His grace? And I would add where are we now because of His grace. What are your miracles? What are your victories? What is the quality of your life since you decided to stop playing and walk with Him? How many times has He shown you unmerited favor? How many things that shouldn’t have worked out, did? How many opportunities flew into your lap? We’ve all got the stories. 

I encourage you to listen to the song again and take the opportunity to reflect on that and thank Him for that. Forget about how far you have to go and bask in the possibilities. Appreciate how far He’s brought you and if you can’t think of anything,  if you don’t see it, ask him sincerely to step into your faith walk and show you what His grace looks like for you?

Because where would I be if not for His grace? I would not have been able to speak in front of the church on my birthday. And that’s just the beginning.

Welcome to My Blog

I just wanted to take a little time to say thank you for visiting notyouraveragechristian.com. This is really a labor of love and a testament to obedience and faith in God’s leading. I feel led by God to share pieces of myself with the hope that Christians like me who don’t fit into the traditional church mold will find comfort in knowing they’re not alone and that there is a place and purpose for us in His church and in this world.

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Thank you again.

Celeste